Learn Boundaries, Communication & Assertiveness Skills (Udemy.com)
Stop getting abused and learn healthy boundaries. Learn how to be assertive and master communication skills.
Created by: Jef Gazley, M.S., LMFT
Last updated September 2013
What you will learn
- Learn about the definition of boundaries and how they develop.
- Learn about internalized shame from the parents and culture.
- Learn what unhealthy boundaries are and how to defend against abuse.
- Learn to identify feelings.
- Learn the three forms of communication.
- Learn appropriate paraphrasing and validating skills.
How it compares
Against the other 392 rated Udemy courses in Communication Skills on CourseDuck:
- Rating4.2 out of 5higher than 6% of them
- Reviews100#368 of 393 by number of reviews
- Length1.9 hoursshorter than 52% of them
- Last updatedSeptember 2013earlier than 100% of them
Course Description
When society is dysfunctional and parents are shame bound they display unhealthy boundaries and project their shame onto their children. This creates unhealthy boundaries in the children and makes it exceedingly difficult to set healthy boundaries and stop abuse.
The first section of this course teaches what healthy and unhealthy boundaries are, how they develop, how shame warps them and impairs an individual’s ability to defend against abusive behavior of self and others.
We are able to become intimate and resolve problems to the degree that we are able to communicate effectively. Most of the problems associated with society can be traced to faulty communication and conflict resolution. This video addresses the art of communication.
The second section teaches effective communication and assertiveness principles and identifies aggressive and passive-aggressive patterns. It will help you identify emotions and teach paraphrasing and validating.
Instructor Details
- 4.2 Rating
100 Reviews
Jef Gazley, M.S., LMFT
Jef Gazley, M.S., LMFT, DCC, D.CEP has practiced psychotherapy for over thirty years and is the owner operator of www.asktheinternettherapist.com since 1998 and www.hypnosisCDsandMP3s.com . He has been practicing energy psychology since 1975. He is trained and certified in both traditional and Ericksonian hypnosis. He is a member in good standing in the American Society For Clinical Hypnosis, National Board For Certified Clinical Hypnotherapists, The International Society For Hypnosis, The American Psychotherapy And Medical Hypnosis Association, and The International Registry Of Professional Hypnotherapists.
He is fully trained in EMDR Level Two, TFT Level Two, EFT, and is certified in both Neuro Emotional Technique™, and Touch For Health. He is a member of the Energy Kinesiology Association, and the Association For Comprehensive Energy Psychology. He has written extensively about Energy Psychology for years and is in the process of writing a book on Energy Psychology. He is also the developer of the TriBrain Trauma Theory. Although adept at all forms of energy psychology Jef believes strongly that NET™ or Neuro Emotional Technique™ is the most powerful energy technique available. He was in the third Neuro Emotional Technique™ certification graduating class.
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Reviews
By Sanjay Behera on 2/18/2025
its great path to learn more and more things about extra valuable things which use in our day to day life cycle.
By Jeannie Nguyen on 3/14/2019
The instructor was boring to point where it was a little hard to focus. It looked like he was reading from a script. Good thing there are print offs that I can read from. I was not impressed with the class.
By Myrna Hunking on 5/16/2018
I learned several things from this course, but really feel I need a more in depth look at this topic, I need more time to process how to actually put this to practice, if more examples would be given and more scenarios, I believe it would be very useful. Thank you
By Marie Walsh on 5/9/2018
This is a fantastic course. I gained a lot of understanding from the instructor and the material,
By Jonathan Estwick on 8/7/2017
The course is really good in highlighting the importance of healthy boundaries. I also really like how it identifies and lists abusive communication and from which place (parent or child) it may come from. My only criticism is in the role playing. It felt quite unrealistic and could have been presented a lot better.
By G Harrop on 5/11/2017
Lots of good content but the delivery could be more interesting. So far, after 3 videos, this feels like someone reading an audiobook. I would prefer to see actors role-playing, graphics, action lists etc.
By Rm on 5/4/2017
I think the concepts presented are thorough, clearly explained often with examples and relayed in an easy to understand way. Pacing may be slower than what one might expect but I feel it's worth considering that these are complex, significant concepts that are worthy of some time to listen, understand, reflect and internalize. I think the presenter is effective in taking his time to make each point soundly instead of racing through the material. I also appreciate the different ways the course material is presented because different people learn in different ways. Thank you Jeff Gazley.
By Melanie Taylor on 1/13/2017
This is a course that everyone who has ever been in a dysfunctional relationship needs to take. The information could be life changing.
By Jonathan Hayward on 10/5/2016
I did this course in 2016 and then again as a refresher in early 2019 - great material, very informative. Thank you!
By Nada Al Attili on 4/21/2014
It is my first course about communication & boundaries; it helped me to betterment my communication skills & learn more about the meaning of boundary violation & its types, what is difference between healthy & unhealthy way of communication, and how to be an active listener. Thank you Dr. Jef for sharing this course with us, and I hope all the best for you & your loved ones!
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Overall Score : 84 / 100







